New Years Eve marks the end of a chapter, and the start of a new one for everyone. I always take the time to reflect on the year, and what I want the new year to look like. Last year I talked about creating a theme for the year instead of making resolutions. Lets face it, resolutions usually don't last very long. I am not saying thats its bad to make them because still make them. However, I make them with an open mind and always trying to keep them inline with my over all theme. For 2017 my theme was "Renew" which was basically the idea that you have the ability to reinvent yourself at anytime. I went through a lot of change this year so I definitely had to reinvent myself a couple times. Overall, I feel that "renew" was a perfect theme for this year because of the amount of change I went through. If you haven't seen last years post I will put a link for it at the bottom of the page.
For 2018, I thought the perfect theme would be to remember that "Change is Inevitable, and Progression is a Choice." Change is going to happen. In fact, its always happening and its important not to let it bring you down. Its so easy to let change make you feel stuck, confused, and angry. However, its such a vital skill to be able to bounce yourself out of your head and be able to look at things rationally. The only way to grow, and overcome adversity is to let yourself go through it and let it make you better. Progression is a choice, and in a world where things are constantly changing its important to be strong.
4 things to remember heading into 2018.
The reason we can let life destroy us is because we become attached to feelings,emotions, and situations. When we are happy we cling on that feeling or moment. So when more difficult things happen we compare our lives to a time when we were happier. That attachment will inevitably make us feel worse. In contrast, when we are sad we forget that its just a feeling and we make ourselves believe that our life has no turn around and we will feel like this forever. The bottom line here is that nothing lasts forever. Everything is temporary, so we shouldn't get attached to feelings, emotions, or moments. Instead let yourself feel good when its good and bad when its bad. It ultimately makes you be more grateful and appreciative for the good times.
2. Happiness is a skill
This is something that I want to discover more of in 2018. I read a book a couple months ago by Dan Harris called 10% Happier. He talks about this idea that happiness is a skill and that we can train our brains to be happier just like we train our bodies at the gym. This really stuck with me, and I plan on putting this through the test and exercising my brain in the new year through meditation.
3. Choosing to let go
I feel like this one becomes easier through experience and growth. Letting go can be difficult especially if something really affected your life. However, holding on to resentment only makes us more bitter. Coming to accept that we can't change the decisions people make is a tough thing to do. However, we have no control over certain situations, so focusing on moving forward and making our own decisions is the only thing we can do. There is so many better ways to use our energy than towards resentment and pain.
4. Believe in yourself
Remember to have your own back and trust yourself.
I am looking forward to entering this new year with a stronger mindset. I am ready to handle challenges better, to enjoy things more, to worry less, and to love more. Thank you 2017 for kicking me in the butt because I am now ready to handle life better. Happy New Year Everyone! I hope that 2018 is filled with a lot of love and vital moments that push all of you to be the best version of yourselves.
Check out last years post!